Wednesday, August 2, 2006

Our first glitch

We ran into our first glitch today.
I am totally obsessed with getting our baby, so I keep up with some forums and websites. And when I say "keep up with" I really mean I check them 3-5 times a day. Anyway, I have been seeing lately some info about Korea starting a new process for international adoption starting in 2007. It is not too radical in comparison to what they are doing now but it will change some things. But I was hoping that it would really not have any affect on us since we will be getting our homestudy and application submitted to Korea before the end of the year. Well I was wrong. I saw today on one of the forums that someone else had been told that Korea had stopped accepting applications until Nov. so I called our agency. They confirmed that they had just gotten word and they were in the process of calling all of the families in thier program to tell us.
I guess I should start by explaining the current process: 1. send in app to American Agency 2. do paperwork(where we are now) 3. do homestudy 4. send appliction to Korean agency 5. they match you with a 8-12 week old infant and send you a referal ( a kind of.."do you want this baby?") 6. accept referal 7. 2-3 months later pick up 4-7 month old baby at airport. Now they are making changes in an effort to get more Korean babies adopted by Korean parents. So instead of matching infants with international parents at 8-12 weeks they are not going to make them availble for adoption internationally until they are 5 months old. Everything else about the process will stay the same. But that means babies will be more like 7-9 months old before they come home. And since they already have so many international couples in the works they want to stop the flow of applications so they can finish those. Then when they start accepting international applications again in Nov it will be the begining of the implimentation of the 2007 process.
What I think this means for us is..1. an older baby and 2. not a baby by spring..I really don't know when, I still imagine 2007 sometime. We can still ( and should) continue with the paperwork and homestudy and get all of our stuff done and ready to go ASAP, because once they start sending the applications to Korea, they will not be sending all of them at the same time, so as not to over flow the system...they will be sending them in the order they were completed. So really once we get our stuff completed I don't know when it will be sent. And with the new process I don't know how long it will be to get a referal ( right now it is between 2-5 weeks once it was sent to Korea). The agency said they are going to be speaking with the director of the Korean agency next week and will try to get some more info about the plans for how things and time lines are going to run once things start back up. But I am thinking that with this being a new process for them, they really aren't going to be able to predict time lines until they start doing it.
So now how do I/we feel about this. Well I can't really speak for Raymond..I have only talked to him about it once today and that was really just to relay the info. But at this point I still don't feel like there is any other country that is a better choice for us. China and Guatemala have babies coming home about the same age (7-12 months). And domestic adoption is really just to risky. I can't even imagine the pain for ourselves let alone the kids if we got a baby and then had it taken away (which is the chance you run for 12 months in the US). I think now it is just a process of shifting our expectations. I expected to have a 4-7month old in Feb-Apr and now I can't expect that. I am going to lose more time with them. That is the hardest thing to accept. The lost time. That is what I feel like I am mourning right now.

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